Making a relationship work isn't about rules or competition, it is about, amongst other things, communication, respect and love.

I often have couples come to me who have perfectly good relationships and really just want to make sure they are doing the right things that will keep it on track.

There are so many issues that can spoil a new or long standing relationship, but when it comes down to it, the love that two people had for each other when they met can often be rekindled with some simple coaching.

Why not come along to one of my workshops on relationships or email me for more information on individual sessions.

Coaching is not counselling or therapy. But will cover many things to help you as individuals and as a couple give your relationship a strong foundation.

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Issues covered would include:

Communication .... Happiness ....  Self care .... Values .... Sex .... Spirituality (not religion) .... Friendship .... Trust and affection .... The 'X' factor

With what seems like more and more couples divorcing, the wedding day promise ‘til death us do part’ prompts questions of many couples commitment to make the marriage a success. Although the question of whether they should have ‘tried harder’ is a valid one, it only serves as a smoke screen, hiding the real issue of whether they were compatible in the first place and properly equipped for the inevitable challenges that even successful marriages bring.

More and more couples seek the help of professionals when their marriage loses its sparkle; but is it too late by that time? Has the damage already been done and the gap between what each individual wants and what they are getting too wide to bridge? Sometimes not, many couples move forward and have a strong marriage after counselling. The growing awareness that, when it comes to relationships, prevention is better than cure, has encouraged couples to prepare for marriage by having a coach. This can help them understand their own and their partners needs, wants and aspirations for the future, before they tie the knot.

A common reason that marriages not lasting is lack of communication, both before the wedding and after. By exploring ways to express themselves and allowing each other to communicate freely right at the start of the relationship the couple are better equipped to deal with challenges that lay ahead. They build a strong foundation based on love and trust cemented with communication and integrity.

Ninety-nine couples out of a hundred will tell you they communicate with each other verbally; but communication is much more than that. To communicate effectively sometimes you need to be silent and just listen to what your partner is saying, or more importantly isn’t saying. Listen as he or she communicates through body language and attitude, which express far more eloquently than speech ever could what is really going on. Communication or lack of, before marriage is an important part of whether it is to succeed or not. By affording your partner the freedom to express his or her authentic self truthfully, in the knowledge that they are being properly heard will create a benchmark for the future.

Before committing to a long term relationship those involved should ask themselves and each other why they want to spend the rest of their life with this one person. Committing to someone hoping that they will provide whatever is missing in your own life has failure written all over it. When each person takes responsibility for his or her own happiness as a fulfilled individual within the relationship, it gives the marriage a foothold. Having a loving partner should add to the happiness you already have in your life not be the basic ingredient of what makes you happy

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